Yes, with self-love. Touching and enjoying yourself involves accepting yourself, loving yourself, recognizing yourself in every millimeter of your skin, not just someone else's, but your own. Masturbating properly is an act of self-love because if you don't love and accept yourself, it's difficult to enjoy yourself when you touch yourself.
In my particular case, allowing myself to explore my body has helped me to recognize it, to love it and to accept it. I have learned to look at it through my eyes and to feel it with the passing of my touch, which at the beginning of my practices was not so pleasant, since I began to love myself a little late, but in time.
The first masturbations of my life were out of pure and simple curiosity. I wanted to know what it felt like to touch myself, because I had seen the men in my house doing the task very judiciously, and I always wondered the same thing, what does it feel like? I lost my fear and began to explore myself with the fear of being seen, being judged or punished for going against the values of the Lord. Anyway, I did it, I am not a woman who leaves tasks pending, to be honest. I began my search and although I can say that I found a couple of orgasms, they were superficial enough that I continued with my life thinking that I was missing little on the subject.
The interesting thing about this is that when I started sharing my sex life with other people, I discovered that masturbation allowed me to teach my partner where and how I found my greatest pleasure, so that, from there, we could begin our joint exploration. I remember that I always asked my partners if they masturbated and asked them to show me how they touched themselves. The erogenous map that masturbation gave me was the first route of my body that I shared and the first thing I ask for when starting an erotic relationship.
Obviously, in the midst of sexual experiences I discovered other ways of pleasure, but what is certain is that through masturbation I gained more confidence, I began to understand my rhythms better, the quality of my orgasms improved, because I understood which movements brought me closer to them and how intense they could be, if I learned to control my breathing and my muscles. In some way, my curiosity for self-exploration and joint exploration increased. I understood that I could share details of my own erotic experiences with my partner and that this created not only a delicious dynamic during the sexual experience, but also strengthened the bond I was building with that person. I got rid of my limiting beliefs, the worst of all was to knock down the idea that "the Lord was everywhere", it was the best thing for me, breaking with that belief helped me to approach my sexuality from my tastes, desires and desire to feel. The faded idea of a sexuality approved by a heavenly or earthly court went out the window. Little by little I normalized my sexuality, my tastes, my personal pleasure choices, and it has been a learning experience and a lot of exploring within, a "me with me" as they call it.
So if you allow me a recommendation, before you go googling how to masturbate to feel more pleasure, start identifying what it is that gives you pleasure, and in this case, not just sexual pleasure. Get to the task of discovering where your pleasure is, how connected you are with your pleasure, what things make you feel emotional pleasure, mental pleasure, gastronomical pleasure, because there are different types of pleasures, what happens is that we only think about erotic pleasure and what is even worse, the erotic pleasure of others. There are theories that mention 14 types of pleasures, so the range of possibilities for you to connect with your pleasure is wide. After you identify those pleasures, what they are, check where they are, how you can reach them and start taking actions that connect you more and more to your moments of pleasure. This will bring you closer to understanding who you are and will help you begin to recognize yourself, understand yourself, accept yourself. Please don't be so hard on yourself, don't judge yourself, and most importantly, love yourself completely, cultivate that love that only comes from digging deep inside.